Being equally yoked in dating
It’s perfectly healthy to forgive, but it’s not OK to be unwise.
When it comes to making up, don’t misunderstand me.
This article isn’t meant for Bonnie and Clyde couples headed for jail.
Rather, I’ll cut to the chase and zone in on those of you caught up in one of the more deceptive, yet prevalent sin in the dating world. It feels so right, and you have every excuse in the world to continue.
Just because they are sitting under the same word as you-- Maturity comes when we start living this walk and passing these tests. You may find that surrounding yourself with that friend is pushing you further and further away from God. Yes, you and your boyfriend could be totally unyoked. Maybe you both are working on your relationship "together" as you sleep "together? NO, you don't throw away every person you think you're "unequally yoked" with-- some relationships (mostly FEMALE friendships develop & grow into great relationships as no relationship is perfect), but YOU have to control the environment (ie.
That stuff has nothing to do with being equally yoked! It’s such a common thing that either you’ve heard of it or are caught up in it yourself! It is the seemingly endless habit many couples have in which they will fight and makeup on a regular basis. It makes for great movies, but what works for a 90-minute Hollywood hit is a no-go in the real world.What I mean is this: if fighting in your dating world means hitting, pushing, shoving, name calling, yelling, manipulating, or anything rude that occurs on a consistent basis then, of course, turn walk away. In bad relationships, bad things happen and will continue to happen if you let them. Wisdom always does now what brings satisfaction later. They look at things like similarities in income levels, education, personal or spiritual growth, fitness, and other lifestyle qualities. Most of the singles I work with think the term equally yoked means the two partners are equals.
One of the animals would control the other, taking it in the wrong direction and the job wouldn’t get done. So when Paul is saying not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, he’s teaching not to be so emotionally and spiritually connected with an unbeliever that he or she has the chance to pull you in another direction or influence the way you think, talk, and behave.